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This morning I awoke and didn't feel much like
staying in bed, so I got up. Today was not a day for computer, or
entertainment. Today was a "work" day. I'm not talking about
job-work, I'm talking about getting-ready-for-a-trip work. I'm not
even supposed to be writing this, but I'll forget part of it if I
don't. What trip am I going on you might ask. Remember Jimmy from a
past entry? He lives in Idaho and I live in Oregon. Our family is
spending Thanksgiving with his, so that means an 8-hour car ride
first thing tomorrow morning (I can't wait!) Also, we now have to
get rid of our second phone line because it is too expensive right
now, meaning no getting on the internet when my parents are gone :( and I
have to ask to get on when they are here. My Aunt Vicki in
California is single with 2 children and she got a job as a school
bus driver, but she hurt her leg and the bus company won't let her
drive until the doctor says so. So now my parents are sending her
$100 a month for food and that's why I say byebye to second phone
line, unless I get a job and pay for it.
But on to other things. Imagine there are 2 guys: Don and Jon.
Jon likes car racing a lot, it's his way of life, but he doesn't
race, he's a dedicated spectator. Don is as much into football as
Jon is into car racing. One day Don meets Jon. Don had never heard
of cars being in races before, and Jon knows a little about football
since he used to be a small fan, but now he hates it. He hates
anyone who likes football also, but he likes Don because he is nice,
even though Don is a football fan. Don finds about Jon's love of car
racing and he is curious as to what it is. He asks questions about
it, like is it similar to horse racing? Do you get 6 points at a
time like in football? How do you score points in car racing? What
makes Jon like it, or what does he like about it? And why does Jon
hate football lovers, he doesn't even know them? Of course Don
doesn't ask all these at once, just over about a 2-week time. Jon
doesn't like discussing it with Don because he says that Don asks
"obnoxious" questions. But Don doesn't know anything about car
racing, so how would his questions be obnoxious? Jon tells Don to
change the subject whenever he mentions car racing or football. Jon
is always down and sad and depressed. Don is good friends with Jon,
one of his only friends and he doesn't like Jon being sad, so he
tries to cheer him up as best as he can, but it never works. He can
never make Jon feel better. One day Jon came to Don and he was
actually in a good mood! Don asked what happened, and Jon said he
got a new car-racing jacket. Don is glad that Jon is happy about
something, but he mentions that Jon must only be happy about car
racing things since he never could make him happy, and the car
racing jacket did. Jon then complains that Don is turning the
conversation into a car racing one, and that he better stop or else
he will get depressed again and leave. Don apologizes, but asks what
he can talk about that will keep Jon happy since only car racing
things make him happy. Jon says that lots of people get jackets with
cars on them, so does that make them car racing fans? Don says no,
but Jon got one because he is a car racing fan, and now Don doesn't
know what he can say that has nothing to do with car racing or
football, but will still be enjoyable for Jon to talk about. Jon
talks about car racing sometimes, and how he hates football fans,
but he doesn't want Don to talk about it because he will ask
questions.
This is my problem. Substitute me for Don, my good
friend/ex-girlfriend is Jon, football is Christianity, and car
racing is Gothic. This is exactly how it is for me, and I honestly
don't know what to say to her without making her annoyed. I know
that she likes being gothic and it is important to her, but she
doesn't like me talking about it because I sometimes ask about it
because I am curious and don't understand. I am a christian. If you
read this can you please give me some advice of how to talk to her?
Or could you have others read this? Please don't tell me things like
"oh, that girl is so mean" because I'm not asking how she can talk
to me better, I'm asking how I can talk to her better. Tell me what
I can change, not what she should, because I don't have very much
control over how she is right now. And I still want to talk to her
too, so telling me to just ignore her won't be helpful either. Okay,
thank you very much for your help, it will be greatly appreciated.
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